When they ask to use your bathroom say NO and send them to the gas station on the corner.
23 Dec 2007 11 Comments
I’m pissed and as some of you know when I’m pissed I tend to sometimes vent here.
This past weekend was Mini Red’s weekend with her Dad except Mini Red was invited to a big party on Saturday. Her Dad brought her to the party and I was to pick her up after. There was no sense in her Dad driving all the way back down here to pick her up and have her for less than 24 hrs. Then again some Dad’s crave to be with their kids and will do anything to be with them. I looked at this as an opportunity to get Mini Red back early.
Anyhow, Mini Red and her Dad call me and wanted to drop off her stuff. I thought we had already agreed he would keep it since she would be back there on Tuesday. “No no no Mini Red will need her stuff”, he says. Well I’m heading out for a day of shopping and this will throw a wrench in my plans. They say they will drop her stuff at my apartment since Mini Red has her key.
So you’re probably thinking what’s the problem here? The problem is I don’t want FN in my apartment, especially when I’m not there. It’s creepy and I feel like he is looking for something. The first time I allowed him in he was disrespectful and sat on my couch talking non-stop. I know him well enough to know he was trying to nonchalantly get some digs in on me and I refused to acknowledge any of it. I decided I just didn’t want him in my home again.
Well a year later he was bringing Mini Red home and I allowed him in again. No biggie this time. I mean I had just woken up and was in my jammies but I got him out of there as soon as I could.
He has tried to come by the apartment with Mini Red before when I wasn’t here but I was able to get my Mom to pick whatever up and avoid this. Mini Red knows I don’t want her Dad in my home and even on the phone this time I expressed it, nonchalantly, to him that I didn’t want him in my home. Well I guess he didn’t get it.
After a full day of shopping I get home and find the toilet is running and that’s when I knew he was in my home. I know Mini Red and I know she was excited to get to the party and wouldn’t stop to pee. The gift he helped Mini Red buy for me was under the tree and placed just so. I knew Mini Red wouldn’t put it there like that. I suddenly felt violated and how I would think someone would feel after their home was burglarized except nothing was taken.
I picked Mini Red up from her party and confronted her about this and she said, “Yes, Daddy came in he said he had to pee. He said it would be ok”. I was livid and felt it showed her Dad how much she disrespected me so I immediately called him. He played dumb, of course like he couldn’t see the problem with this. I have never been invited in his home nor would I even ask. Numerous times I’ve had to pee when picking up Mini Red, which is every other Sunday, but I go to the Dunkin Donuts near his home. I wouldn’t even dare to ask to go in his home.
He then went all drama on my ass saying, “Fine! I’ll never set foot in Montgomery County again. How many times do you want me to say I’m sorry?”
He IS the Drama King. His apology means nothing if he doesn’t understand. He tried to turn it around on me, which is his usual when he is confronted, and that’s a load of crap. It’s useless to get my point across now and at least I’ve said my peace so he can’t play dumb and this won’t happen again.
Evidently, when he was at the door Mini Red told him several times I said he couldn’t come in but he assured her it would be ok. I know Mini Red felt bad about the whole situation but I couldn’t help but get even more angry at FN for doing this to her.
He used the “I have to pee” line to get in. I can’t believe he used this on his own daughter.
Mini Red is feeling bad and I figure this is time for a lesson on Lines Dudes Will Give You.
Not long after my divorce Mini Red and I moved into our own apartment and left my parent’s house. I had been working at The Company for maybe a year and they were growing by leaps and bounds. The Company decided to upgrade from IRA SEP accounts to 401ks for the employees. We were offered opportunities to meet with the 401k guy that was contracted and could do whatever investing with him. Since he was located in my neck of the woods he and I met for coffee not far from my apartment. I got some information from him on what I could do with my money as well as hearing about his wife, son and baby-on-the-way. After our meeting I was walking home and he was walking with me, which I found odd. I tried to nicely separate and he said he would walk with me since I wasn’t far. When we got to the door of my building I said goodbye but he used the line “I have to pee could I use your bathroom?”
“Ummm, ok”, but I was thinking “Crap how am I gonna lose this guy. Then again he’s married so he should be harmless, right?” Boy was I wrong not-to-mention STOOPID and naive.
This asshole came out of the bathroom and next thing I know he’s grabbing me. I got out of his grips and got him out of my home. This situation could have gotten bad.
As I’m telling Mini Red this story she asks why I never told her this before. There is no reason for her to know this until now and not to let it happen to her even if it is her Dad.
As for the 401k dude… I told a friend at work about it and it got back to our CEO. A memo went out to our company that the 401ks were moved to a different company. Word is… Our CEO called this guy and told him he didn’t like the way he treated our employees so he was withdrawing all of The Company’s money from him.
The moral of this story girls… Be weary of dudes asking to use your bathroom.
Isn’t it funny how one thing leads to another.
23 Dec 2007 2 Comments
in music
Tonight Mini Red and I were watching Christmas Vacation. This is a family favorite since my Dad IS Clark W. Griswold. Often times with these movies I go to imdb to look up the actors. So one thing leads to another and I’m reading about Diane Ladd and her daughter Laura Dern and I end up on a page for Ben Harper.
Gawd this man is HOT!
Then there’s his music, just amazing. I always have him at the ready on my iPod.
You know it’s going to be a tough day when…
20 Dec 2007 2 Comments
in hmmm
You go to clean your glasses and realize the smudge isn’t your glasses but your tired eyeballs.
Crazy week update:
Came down with a cold Sunday night but I seem to be winning the battle.
Orientation all day Monday in a FREEZING cold room and amusing young interns. Yes, Brian, I’m talking about you.
A little overwhelmed by The New Company and how small I feel in the scheme of things. The New Company will hence forth be called The Borg since they assimilate everything and everyone. I am enjoying the feeling that I have something very substantial to bring to The Borg and they seem excited to extract my knowledge.
Yes, I am a geek.
My last class is tonight and I turn in my final project, which has taken a toll on me. I only have a few more tweaks to do in class before I turn it in. Thanks be to Be-Jesus and now I need a beer.
Tis the season to be supportive
15 Dec 2007 2 Comments
in friends
It was recently brought to my attention that a former co-worker, Mike Rollins, and his family have been hit with some rough times. Their son Cole was recently diagnosed with Lukemia.
Google Boy told me just last night about this and how Mike has a blog. I was under the impression the blog was started due to Cole’s lukemia but it didn’t. I’ve been perusing the blog and went back to the beginning where I found the most adorable movie clip of Mike and Cole playing the guitar. I found this very touching considering what is happening just a few months later.
I encourage you to check out his blog and give the Rollins family your support by either commenting or even donations.
Seems Mike’s blog title says it all: An Exercise in Living.
The final day has come
14 Dec 2007 2 Comments
in work
I can’t believe this day has come. This is my last day with The Company.
I’ve been here for over eight years and I feel as if I’m leaving home. I have not had to make or buy lunch all week and you’d think that would be great but the looming circumstances for these people are hanging over their heads. Red is leaving them.
The New Dude is taking over my duties and we have all been joking that he needs a red wig and balloons to stuff in his shirt. The clients are disappointed and had some very kind words for me. I told one of my clients about the blog and here is what he had to say:
Just checked out your blog…
If I could write a post it would go something like this. ..
” Well “Latin Girl” is leaving her job, never met or saw her but she is one funny lady, she will be missed. Asked if I could keep in touch with her after she left the job and she sent me a link to her blog. Took a quick look , the voice and humor were all her but I admit I was quite surprised that the picture she had posted was really her, this girl has it all! Sent her a compliment, all the while worried I would become food for fodder on her site, alas no response…those damn chest droolers…when will they learn that sometimes a compliment is just a compliment!”
Couldn’t resist! 
I promptly replied that I would be posting it so he was forewarned.
I have faith in the new job I am going to but the people here is what keeps The Company going. I will miss them terribly. After work many of us are getting together for my going away happy hour and I am pleasantly surprised by the people I hear that are coming including some clients and old friends I’ve met through this job. I’m hoping Mosh will take some pics so I can post them for you.
My final project for Illustrator class is due next Thursday so posting will still be limited as I am in crunch time. The project is coming along and I hope to be able to post that for you as well.
Sis’s boyfriend, Chase, gave Mini Red and I our Holiday gift early. We now have decoration for the car… Soon the car will be Rudolph with a red nose and antlers. No worries a photo is forthcoming.
Lastly, Chase is still whining over this pseudo name I have given him. In a conversation over IM this morning he expressed this and suggested a new name. I believe he was joking about this name but I’m not. Chase will hence forth be known as “Viper“. Please make a mental note of it.
So long, farewell, Auf wiedersehen, good night
09 Dec 2007 14 Comments
in work
Wow this has all happened so fast.
I have been with The Company for almost 9 years and last week I gave my notice. I still can’t believe this is all happening.
The knowledge I have of the software I work with has become in high demand. This is why my resume has been requested more and more lately. In my opinion my resume is nothing fancy and just states the facts. I didn’t even send it out when The Company was having trouble and people were being let go. Well, my resume was requested again and I thought, “Why not. I’m happy where I am but let’s see what happens”. I was then quickly contacted for an interview but things fell quiet over Thanksgiving. “No biggie”, I thought since I am happy where I am.
They contacted me soon after Thanksgiving and I went for and interview. I wasn’t real nervous and didn’t expect much since I am happy where I am. I went because I just wanted to see and I hadn’t been on an interview in about 7 years.
The interview was amazing and these people were awesome not-to-mention the benefits are off the hook. The day after the interview I heard nothing but again “no biggie” because yes I was happy where I was. I wouldn’t expect to hear anything the next day anyhow. Isn’t it like a first date where you never hear from the dude the next day because he might seem too eager?
But I heard on the second day and word was they were very excited about me and an offer came my way by the third day. I started shaking and called my Dad. He said, “Is it a no brainer or do you have to think about it?”
I said, “It’s a no brainer but I’m feel like I did when I left my ex-husband, it was a no brainer but still tough.”
I was nauseous at the thought of telling my boss. She is an awesome lady and working for her has been the best time in my tenure with The Company. I treaded softly as I went in her office, I closed the door and just told her. She stared at me blankly and said, “I hate you! I’m gonna kill you and don’t think you’re getting a party.”
She was joking of course and I knew she wouldn’t be happy about me leaving.
Every time someone leaves it has been difficult and I would get this pang of pain in my chest. Not to toot my own horn, but I know others will feel this pain as I leave. I have been a staple there for so long and from what I hear it’s noticed when I’m on a client site an out of the office. No matter what I try to always have a kind word for everyone, a funny story or even a funny impersonation of a co-worker.
If you are a co-worker and reading this now you know I have, most likely, done an impersonation of YOU! All of you! I’m not mean about it but everyone has a little thing they do. My coworkers even pointed out my slight lisp.
I can’t express this turmoil I’m feeling within. On the one hand I started a new career with The Company while I was going through my divorce and my life completely changed. I have only had three jobs since 1989 and this one is by far my longest tenure. On the other hand I feel I have now grown in my career and my single adulthood and now I move on to something much much bigger.
I will miss this job, The Company, the clients, Old Town Alexandria and most importantly my co-workers but it’s time for me to spread my wings and fly the coop.
Wish me luck and say a prayer for me (if that’s your thing).
Oh and here’s a conversation that went down between a co-worker at The Company and a co-worker at The New Company:
The Company: You are a thief!
The New Company: Thief? Why?
The Company: you know why you are a thief 
You stole my woman.
The New Company: Haha LOL. Sorry, your woman wanted me I only offered.
The Company: lol. No you enticed her you showed her grandeur, money and awesome benefits.
If you could change your last name…
04 Dec 2007 4 Comments
in hmmm
I would change mine to Fugowski.
What a great name!
Red Fugowski
I’m just sayin is all…
Make your own damn opinion
03 Dec 2007 13 Comments
There’s a new movie coming out called The Golden Compass. It looks fascinating but then I hear it’s based on a series of books with anti-religious themes.
Well, the cafeteria Catholic in me thinks, “No way I’m not going to support that.” Mini Red and I briefly discussed this and scoffed at the movie vowing not to see it.
Whenever we see trailers, though, we are enthralled so I decided to look further.
I found an article the other day (I can’t remember where it is now), which tells how the author, Philip Pullman, is atheist but his stories have no such basis. It seems The Catholic League says The Golden Compass is atheism for kids.
I believe there is a higher power and I also believe we live in a free country to allow everyone to believe differently. I don’t believe in pushing my beliefs on others yet we can all share and maybe learn from each other, hence the blogger world.
There are religions out there that are big on pushing their beliefs. They have young members devote years of their life to the religion and go on missions. Helping others is one thing but going door to door and pushing your beliefs on someone is just annoying.
Another thing that annoys me are those who mock what others believe such as Church of the Flying Spaghetti Monster. I know I know this could turn into a mess of a post on religion and such but I’m not arguing about everyone beliefs here. What I am talking about is taking in all of the facts and making your own decision rather than let anyone push their opinion on you not-to-mention respecting others opinions and beliefs.
This evening I was thinking about it again and I got a bit annoyed. The movie isn’t going to make me an atheist. If that’s the case then couldn’t this argument be made towards any other children’s fantasy book out there? Is Harry Potter written with Jesus in mind as he learns to use the gifts that have been bestowed upon him? That’s preposterous!
I decided to google this again and found an excerpt from the Today Show. Along with it was a video of the interview and Pullman said, “I always mistrust people who tell us how we should understand something.” I think that is a great statement.
Maybe this is just my excuse for seeing the movie or maybe I just came to my senses. Either way I’m not letting anyone decide anything for me. I will form my own opinion and if it takes two minutes, two, days or even two years then so be it.
Mini Red and I will be checking out this flick.
On another note: I keep having a hard time spelling atheist. Isn’t the rule “I before E except after C”? So then shouldn’t it be athiest not atheist?
